How many of you have been “friend-zoned” by someone that you were hoping would develop into something more serious? How did you react? Were you offended? Do you still communicate with that person? These are questions I’d be very interested to hear from other gay guys.
I personally don’t believe that you can make an accurate decision on what type of person someone is by only meeting up with them once. I like to meet with someone a couple of times before I feel like I have a better understanding on where I stand. The potential problem? Meeting with someone more than once may give them the impression that you are invested in them and that’s when feelings can make things difficult. It would be much easier if both of us had no assumptions to begin with.
Saying the obvious, but we all have our preferences. That’s nothing to be shamed or feel guilty about, but I seem to have to remind guys about this when I don’t want to get romantically involved. Some of them take it personally, and I’m not quite sure how to react to that. Just because I don’t want to get romantically involved doesn’t mean that I don’t want to continue connecting with you. It’s interesting thinking how I would react differently when I fell for this guy in the winter of 2014/2015. I’m sure many people would think I over-reacted the first time I was friend-zoned for the first guy I fell for.
What are some of the reasons you don’t want to get romantically involved? Personality? Body type? Do they have a weird quirk about them? Lied about themselves when you met them? I sometimes think I have too specific of preferences. It’s almost like I don’t want to compensate for anything less and I am wondering if I have passed up someone compatible because I am looking for someone with certain qualities. I have only been in the dating scene for a little over a year. I’ve learned to be patient when it comes to finding someone, but when I first moved here I was pretty impatient and wanting things to progress quickly.
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