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Save Yourself the Disappointment and Learn to Expect or Assume Nothing

The title says it all. It took me several months to figure this out, but this has been my saving grace since I started utilizing it. I used to go into a meet up with hopes that it will develop into at least a friendship. This did not happen as frequently as I had hoped and I was getting disappointed (and depressed) with the outcomes of me trying to connect with other guys. So after a while, I started to not expect anything. The only thing I expect now is that when I meet a guy, we will probably eat at a place I have never eaten at before, and that I will talk to a guy. That’s it. I still am interested what they have to say, and I am present, but after I say goodbye, I never expect to see that person again. This works for me because when there ends up being a second meet up with one of the guys, I think of it more as a pleasant surprise. It may sound like a pessimistic outlook, but it really has helped me. It is still frustrating to have meet up after meet up and not end up making any sort of connections, but this way it’s “preparing” me for what will happen with future meet ups.

One response to “Save Yourself the Disappointment and Learn to Expect or Assume Nothing”

  1. Hi Again KP 🙂

    I wouldn’t say that that is a pessimistic outlook. The biggest concern I’d have is that it might be a first step towards one.

    I’d say however that as long as you stay true to the lessons we’ve both learned from the Power of Vulnerability, and as long as you continually keep yourself open to try to make deeper connection, then I don’t see any problem with adopting an outlook that helps to keep you from getting hurt unnecessarily.

    I know you weren’t looking for validation, but I wanted to offer it just the same.

    — Justin

    PS: Just don’t ever let yourself forget that a little bit of openess and a little bit of vulnerability will always be necessary.

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